Friday, 14 September 2012
Monday, 3 September 2012
Friday, 24 August 2012
We all want to be happy, and happiness is useful for other things, too.For example, happiness improves physical, health,improves creativity,and even enables you to make better decisions.(It's harder to be rational when you're unhappy.)So, as part of a series on how to win at life with science and rationality, let's review the science of happiness.
How to be happierHappiness, then, is an enormously complex thing. Worse, we must remember the difference between experienced happiness and remembered happiness . I can only scratch the surface of happiness research in this tiny post. In short, there is no simple fix for unhappiness; no straight path to bliss.Moreover, happiness will be achieved differently for different people. A person suffering from depression due to chemical imbalance may get more help from a pill than from learning better social skills. A healthy, extroverted, agreeable, conscientious woman can still be unhappy if she is trapped in a bad marriage. Some people were raised by parents whose parenting style did not encourage the development of healthy self-esteem,33 and they will need to devote significant energy to overcome this deficit. For some, the road to happiness is long. For others, it is short.Below, I review a variety of methods for becoming happier. Some of them I discussed above; many, I did not.These methods are ranked roughly in descending order of importance and effect, based on my own reading of the literature. You will need to think about who you are, what makes you happy, what makes you unhappy, and what you can achieve in order to determine which of the below methods should be attempted first. Also, engaging any of these methods may require that you first gain some mastery over procrastination.Here, then, are some methods for becoming happier34:If you suffer from serious illness, depression, anxiety, paranoia, schizophrenia, or other serious problems, seek professional help first. Here's how .Even if you don't need professional help, you may benefit from some self-exploration and initial guidance from a reductionistic, naturalistic counselor like Tom Clark .Develop the skills and habits associated with extroversion. First, get some decent clothes and learn how to wear them properly. If you're a guy, read these books . If you're a girl, ask your girlfriends or try these books . Next, learn basic social skills , including body language . If you're really introverted, practice onChatroulette or Omegle first. Next, spend more time with other people, making small talk. Go to meetups andCouchSurfing group activities. Practice your skills until they become more natural, and you find yourselfenjoying being in the company of others. Learn how to be funny and practice that, too.Improve your self-esteem and optimism. This is tricky. First, too much self-esteem can lead to harmful narcissism.35 Second, it's not clear that a rationalist can endorse several standard methods for improving one's self esteem (self-serving bias, basking in reflected glory, self-handicapping)36 because they toy with self-deception and anti-epistemology . But there are a few safe ways to increase your self-esteem and optimism. Make use of success spirals, vicarious victory, and mental contrasting, as described here.Improve your agreeableness. In simpler terms, this basically means: increase your empathy. Unfortunately, little is currently known (scientifically) about how to increase one's empathy.37 The usual advice about trying to see things from another's perspective, and thinking more about people less fortunate than oneself, will have to do for now. The organization Roots of Empathy may have some good advice , too.Improve your conscientiousness. Conscientiousness involves a variety of tendencies: useful organization, strong work ethic, reliability, planning ahead, etc. Each of these individual skills can be learned. The techniques for overcoming procrastination are useful, here. Some people report that books like Getting Things Done have helped them become more organized and reliable.Develop the habit of gratitude. Savor the good moments throughout each day.38 Spend time thinking about happy memories.39 And at the end of each day, write down 5 things you are grateful for: the roof over your head, your good fortune at being born in a wealthy country, the existence of Less Wrong, the taste of chocolate, the feel of orgasm... whatever. It sounds childish, but it works.40Find your purpose and live it. One benefit of religion may be that it gives people a sense of meaning and purpose. Without a magical deity to give you purpose, though, you'll have to find out for yourself what drives you. It may take a while to find it though, and you may have to dip your hands and mind into many fields. But once you find a path that strongly motivates you and fulfills you, take it. (Of course, you might not find one purpose but many.) Having a strong sense of meaning and purpose has a wide range of positive effects.41 The 'find a purpose' recommendation also offers an illustration of how methods may differ in importance for people. 'Find a purpose' is not always emphasized in happiness literature, but for my own brain chemistry I suspect that finding motivating purposes has made more difference in my life than anything else on this list.Find a more fulfilling job. Few people do what they love for a living. Getting to that point can be difficult and complicated. You may find that doing 10 other things on this list first is needed for you to have a good chance at getting a more fulfilling job. To figure out which career might be full of tasks that you love to do, a RIASEC personality test might help. In the USA, O*NET can help you find jobs that are in-demand and fit your personality.Improve your relationship with your romantic partner, or find a different one. As with finding a more fulfilling job, this one is complicated, but can have major impact. If you know your relationship isn't going anywhere, you may want to drop it so you can spend more time developing yourself, which will improve future relationships. If you're pretty serious about your partner, there are many things you can do to improve the relationship. Despite being touted widely, "active listening" doesn't predict relationship success.42 Tested advice for improving the chances of relationship success and satisfaction include: (1) do novel and exciting things with your partner often43, (2) say positive things to and about your partner at least 5 times more often than you say negative things44, (3) spend each week writing about why your relationship is better than some others you know about45, (4) qualify every criticism of your partner with a review of one or two of their positive qualities46, and (5) stare into each other's eyes more often.47Go outside and move your body. This will improve your attention and well-being.48Spend more time in flow. Drop impossible tasks in favor of tasks that are at the outer limits of your skillset. Make easy and boring tasks more engaging by turning them into games or adding challenges for yourself.Practice mindfulness regularly. When not in flow, step outside yourself and pay attention to how you are behaving, how your emotions are functioning, and how your current actions work toward your goals. Meditation may help.Avoid consumerism. The things you own do come to own you, in a sense. Consumerism leads to unhappiness.49 Unfortunately, you've probably been programmed from birth to see through the lens of consumerism. One way to start deprogramming is by watching this documentary about the deliberate invention of consumerism by Edward Bernays . After that, you may want to sell or give away many of your possessions and, more importantly, drastically change your purchasing patterns.Note that seeking happiness as an end might be counterproductive. Many people report that constantly checking to see if they are happy actually decreases their happiness - a report that fits with the research on "flow." It may be better to seek some of the above goals as ends, and happiness will be a side-effect.Remember: Happiness will not come from reading articles on the internet. Happiness will come when you do the things research recommends.Good luck!
Happiness is not determined by objective factors, but by how you feel about them.
EANJOY THIS SONG
SING FU TE SUN CIEN YI WEI
Pie sang kuo te sin hai ke yi ai sei.
Hau Siang Hau Siang = Vicky Chow.3gp
Music And The Brain
I found this interesting article about how music affects the brain, for all you proggers who have always suspected that there was something different about how your grey matter processes music. Turns out you were right! http://sciam.com/print_version.cfm?articleID=0007D716-71A1-1179-AF8683414B7F0000
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Thursday, 16 August 2012
Practice
No one thinks babies are stupid because they can't talk. They just haven't learned how to yet. But some people will call a person dumb if they can't solve math problems, or spell a word right, or read fast — even though all these things are learned with practice.
At first, no one can read or solve equations. But with practice, they can learn to do it. And the more a person learns, the easier it gets to learn new things-because their brain "muscles" have gotten stronger!
The students everyone thinks are the "smartest" may not have been born any different from anyone else. But before they started school, they may have started to practice reading. They had already started to build up their "reading muscles." Then, in the classroom, everyone said, "That's the smartest student in the class."
They don't realize that any of the other students could learn to do as well if they exercised and practiced reading as much. Remember, all of those other students learned to speak at least one whole language already — something that grownups find very hard to do. They just need to build up their "reading muscles" too.
http://www.nais.org
At first, no one can read or solve equations. But with practice, they can learn to do it. And the more a person learns, the easier it gets to learn new things-because their brain "muscles" have gotten stronger!
The students everyone thinks are the "smartest" may not have been born any different from anyone else. But before they started school, they may have started to practice reading. They had already started to build up their "reading muscles." Then, in the classroom, everyone said, "That's the smartest student in the class."
They don't realize that any of the other students could learn to do as well if they exercised and practiced reading as much. Remember, all of those other students learned to speak at least one whole language already — something that grownups find very hard to do. They just need to build up their "reading muscles" too.
http://www.nais.org
CINTA YANG TAK PERNAH BERAKHIR
Tuhan Yesus...
Saat aku menyukai seorang teman,
Ingatkanlah alu bahawa akan ada sebuah akhir,
sehingga aku tetap bersama yang tak berakhir,
Tuhan Yesus...
Ketika aku merindukan seorang kekasih,
Rindukanlah aku kepada rindu sejati-Mu,
Agar kerinduanku terhadap-Mu semakin menjadi,
Tuhan Yesus...
Jika aku hendak seseorang,
Temankanlah aku dengan orang yang mencintai-Mu,
Agar bertambah kuat cintaku pada-Mu...
Tuhan Yesus,
Ketika aku sudah jatuh cinta,
Jagalah cinta itu,
Agar tidak melebihi cintaku pada-Mu,
Tuhan Yesus,
Ketika aku berucap aku cinta pada-Mu,
Biarlah ku katakan pada hati yang bertaubat pada-Mu
Agar aku tidak jatuh cinta dalam cinta yang bukan kerana-Mu,
Sebagaimana orang bijak berucap,
mencintai seseorang bukanlah apa-apa,
dicintai seseorang adalah sesuatu yang indah,
dicintai oleh orang yang kita cintai adalah sangat beerti,
Tapi dicintai pleh SANG PENCIPTA ??
Adalah segala-galanya...
jess.clytemnestra@gmail.com
Tuhan Yesus...
Saat aku menyukai seorang teman,
Ingatkanlah alu bahawa akan ada sebuah akhir,
sehingga aku tetap bersama yang tak berakhir,
Tuhan Yesus...
Ketika aku merindukan seorang kekasih,
Rindukanlah aku kepada rindu sejati-Mu,
Agar kerinduanku terhadap-Mu semakin menjadi,
Tuhan Yesus...
Jika aku hendak seseorang,
Temankanlah aku dengan orang yang mencintai-Mu,
Agar bertambah kuat cintaku pada-Mu...
Tuhan Yesus,
Ketika aku sudah jatuh cinta,
Jagalah cinta itu,
Agar tidak melebihi cintaku pada-Mu,
Tuhan Yesus,
Ketika aku berucap aku cinta pada-Mu,
Biarlah ku katakan pada hati yang bertaubat pada-Mu
Agar aku tidak jatuh cinta dalam cinta yang bukan kerana-Mu,
Sebagaimana orang bijak berucap,
mencintai seseorang bukanlah apa-apa,
dicintai seseorang adalah sesuatu yang indah,
dicintai oleh orang yang kita cintai adalah sangat beerti,
Tapi dicintai pleh SANG PENCIPTA ??
Adalah segala-galanya...
jess.clytemnestra@gmail.com
Sunday, 12 August 2012
Tuhan, apakah yang harus kuperbuat
Paulus
menanyakan dua pertanyaan yang paling penting dalam hidup ini, “Siapakah
Engkau, Tuhan? (Kis. 22:8)” dan berikutnya, “Tuhan, apakah yang harus
kuperbuat? (Kis. 22:10)”
Tuhan, apakah yang harus
kuperbuat?
Elsie
C
Firman yang paling mengerikan di dalam Alkitab dapat
ditemukan di Matius 7:21
ketika Yesus berkata, “Bukan setiap orang yang berseru kepada-Ku:
Tuhan, Tuhan! akan masuk ke dalam Kerajaan Sorga, melainkan dia yang melakukan
kehendak Bapa-Ku yang di sorga.”
Bukankah kita sering diberitahu bahwa kita cukup mengaku
dan mempercayai Yesus sebagai Tuhan untuk diselamatkan? Bukankah kita juga
sering diberitahu bahwa keselamatan itu perkara gampang, cukup dengan percaya,
dan tidak ada hubungannya sama sekali dengan perbuatan kita? Bukankah orang
Kristen sering dibombadir dengan konsep bahwa perbuatan baik apapun yang kita
lakukan tidak akan membawa kita kepada Kerajaan Surga? Tahukah Anda bahwa
berdasarkan ajaran Yesus di atas, semua itu merupakan kebohongan?
Ajaran Yesus dengan tegas mengatakan bahwa sekalipun kita
mempercayai Dia sebagai “Tuhan”, itu sendiri tidak akan menyelamatkan kita.
Singkat kata, pengakuan iman kita tidak akan menyelamatkan kita, sekalipun kita
mempercayainya dengan segenap hati, dan dengan setia melafalkannya di gereja setiap
minggu. Hanya satu jenis orang saja yang akan ditemukan dalam Kerajaan Surga
pada hari itu, yaitu mereka yang melakukan
kehendak Bapa di surga. Dengan kata lain, bukan saja apa atau siapa yang
kita percayai, tetapi jauh lebih penting, adalah apa yang kita LAKUKAN yang akan menyelamatkan kita.
Hal ini diungkapkan dengan baik sekali dalam kesaksian
pertobatan Paulus ketika dia menanyakan dua pertanyaan yang paling penting
dalam hidup ini, “Siapakah Engkau, Tuhan? (Kis. 22:8)” dan berikutnya, “Tuhan, apakah
yang harus kuperbuat? (Kis. 22:10)”
Tidak ada pertanyaan yang lebih penting dari kedua pertanyaan ini dalam hidup
ini. Pertanyaan pertama akan membawa kita ke pintu yang terbuka; dan pertanyaan
kedua akan menuntun kita di sepanjang jalan menuju hidup.
Pertanyaan kedua adalah pertanyaan yang harus dipanjatkan
kepada Tuhan setiap pagi, “Tuhan, apakah yang harus kuperbuat hari ini?”
Jalan menuju hidup ialah jalan melakukan kehendak Bapa di
surga. Ini diungkapkan dengan jelas oleh Yohanes di 1Yoh. 2:17, “tetapi orang yang melakukan kehendak Allah tetap hidup
selama-lamanya”, dan Ibrani 10:36, “Sebab kamu memerlukan ketekunan, supaya
sesudah kamu melakukan kehendak Allah, kamu memperoleh apa yang dijanjikan
itu.” Dan dari ayat 39, janji itu merujuk kepada hidup.
Berdasarkan ajaran Yesus, apapun
doktrin atau pengajaran tentang “iman” yang samasekali mengabaikan perbuatan (melakukan
kehendak Bapa) dapat dipastikan sebagai ajaran palsu. Apapun doktrin tentang
iman yang tidak mengaitkan keselamatan dan melakukan kehendak Allah merupakan suatu
penyalahtafsiran. Seluruh ajaran
Perjanjian Baru menegaskan dengan sebulat suara bahwa iman yang menyelamatkan
ialah iman yang membawa kita untuk melakukan kehendak Bapa di surga.
Lirik Lagu GMB - Kupercaya
Kaulah batu karangku
Kaulah benteng hidupku
Kubaringkan seg'nap arah masa depanku
Dalam setiap pikiran
Dalam setiap harapan
Kuyakin Engkau tahu yang terbaik bagiku
Reff:
Sbab Kaulah Allah
Kaulah Tuhan
Kupercaya bahwa anugrahMu
Itulah yang menguatkanku
Sbab Kau berkuasa
Kaulah raja
Tak ada yang tak mungkin bagi Engkau
Wednesday, 8 August 2012
Korean Song
Without Words-Jang Geun Seuk (with romanji lyrics)
Hajimal geol geuraesseo moreuncheok haebeorilgeol
Anboineun geotcheoreom bolsueopneun geotcheoreom
Neol aye bojimalgeol geuraetnabwa
Domangchil geol geuraesseo motdeuleuncheok geureolgeol
Deutjido motaneun cheok
Deuleul su eopneun geotcheoreom
Aye ne sarang deutji aneulgeol
Maldo eopsi sarangeul alge hago
Maldo eopsi sarangeul naege jugo
Sumgyeol hanajocha neol damge haenotgo
Ireoke domangganigga
Maldo eopsi sarangi nareul ddeona
Maldo eopsi sarangi nareul beoryeo
Museunmaleul halji damun ibi
Honjaseo nollangeot gata
Maldo eopsi waseo
Wae ireoke apeunji wae jagguman apeunji
Neol bolsu eopdaneungeon
Nega eopdaneungeo malgo
Modu yejeongwa ddokgateungeonde
[ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsfreak.com/j/jang+geun+seok/without+words_20886768.html ]
Maldo eopsi sarangeul alge hago
Maldo eopsi sarangeul naege jugo
Sumgyeol hanajocha neol damge haenotgo
Ireoke domangganigga
Maldo eopsi sarangi nareul ddeona
Maldo eopsi sarangi nareul beoryeo
Museunmaleul halji damun ibi
Honjaseo nollangeot gata
Maldo eopsi nunmuli heulleonaeryeo
Maldo eopsi gaseumi muneojyeoga
Maldo eopneun sarangeul gidarigo
Maldo eopneun sarangeul apahago
Neoksi nagabeoryeo baboga doebeoryeo
Haneulman bogo unigga
Maldo eopsi ibyeoli nareulchaja
Maldo eopsi ibyeoli naegewaseo
Junbido motago neol bonaeyahaneun
Naemami nollangeot gata
Maldo eopsi waseo
Maldo eopsi watdaga
Maldo eopsi ddeonaneun
Jinagan yeolbyeongcheoreom jamsi apeumyeon doenabwa
Jageun hyungteoman namgedoenigga
Anboineun geotcheoreom bolsueopneun geotcheoreom
Neol aye bojimalgeol geuraetnabwa
Domangchil geol geuraesseo motdeuleuncheok geureolgeol
Deutjido motaneun cheok
Deuleul su eopneun geotcheoreom
Aye ne sarang deutji aneulgeol
Maldo eopsi sarangeul alge hago
Maldo eopsi sarangeul naege jugo
Sumgyeol hanajocha neol damge haenotgo
Ireoke domangganigga
Maldo eopsi sarangi nareul ddeona
Maldo eopsi sarangi nareul beoryeo
Museunmaleul halji damun ibi
Honjaseo nollangeot gata
Maldo eopsi waseo
Wae ireoke apeunji wae jagguman apeunji
Neol bolsu eopdaneungeon
Nega eopdaneungeo malgo
Modu yejeongwa ddokgateungeonde
[ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsfreak.com/j/jang+geun+seok/without+words_20886768.html ]
Maldo eopsi sarangeul alge hago
Maldo eopsi sarangeul naege jugo
Sumgyeol hanajocha neol damge haenotgo
Ireoke domangganigga
Maldo eopsi sarangi nareul ddeona
Maldo eopsi sarangi nareul beoryeo
Museunmaleul halji damun ibi
Honjaseo nollangeot gata
Maldo eopsi nunmuli heulleonaeryeo
Maldo eopsi gaseumi muneojyeoga
Maldo eopneun sarangeul gidarigo
Maldo eopneun sarangeul apahago
Neoksi nagabeoryeo baboga doebeoryeo
Haneulman bogo unigga
Maldo eopsi ibyeoli nareulchaja
Maldo eopsi ibyeoli naegewaseo
Junbido motago neol bonaeyahaneun
Naemami nollangeot gata
Maldo eopsi waseo
Maldo eopsi watdaga
Maldo eopsi ddeonaneun
Jinagan yeolbyeongcheoreom jamsi apeumyeon doenabwa
Jageun hyungteoman namgedoenigga
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